Saturday, July 4, 2009

It's ok to be different....



My sister sent me these images today and I got a lump in my throat. Why? Because to me they symbolise everything I believe about our children. It is ok to be different. Does it make you any less beautiful? Absolutely not. It is far too easy to focus on what we believe to be wrong or missing with our children and miss the little things that make them uniquely wonderful. If you were to look at this peacock, would you see an albino bird and criticise its missing pigmentation, or would you look and find it breathtakingly beautiful....

I was advised in the early days to please please not spend every second analysing my little girl, not to lose sight of her little soul and to enjoy her. Great advice but as many others have found, very difficult to do in practice. It is something I advise people to do now though too. My daughter may be on the spectrum, but she is an amazing, funny, happy little girl with a laugh that is infectious. Her quirks are part of her personality and without them, she'd just be a bog standard multicoloured run of the mill peacock...

8 comments:

Meadow said...

beautiful, like a snowflake. Just like our Munchkin!! xxxxx

Jean said...

well said Petunia...wise words XXX

jazzygal said...

Lovely photos Petunia..... and sentiments.
It is absolutely OK to be different...or quirky!! Sure aren't we all, when u think about it!
xx Jazzy

Hammie said...

Oh conformity is bland. xx

Joeys mum said...

well written, almost as if you`re looking into my soul, makes me think more about postive rather than the negatives that go with autism xxxx

Nan P. said...

Hello Petunia,

Thank you for dropping in and commenting. I have just read all your posts, and all I can say is:

WHOA!

I admire your courage. I understand the bits about denial, especially went hit from all sides - the breakdown of a relationship is tough enough, but when other things pile on top of it, all we want to do is give up, crawl into bed, and ignore everything. I know, I'd got that T-shirt. So well done!

I look forward to reading more.

Petunia said...

Thanks girls :)

Nan P I have read your blog and must say you are an amazing woman. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? Thanks for your lovely commnent x

Anonymous said...

Hey Petunia,
I think thats my fav blog of all. So so so so true, so well writen and that bird is so beautifully individual - just like our children.
Hennie
xxx

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